Why you should not criticize children who fantasize and dream a lot
The older child gets – the more often he/she is pulled down and urged not to do anything nonsense. Children have to learn, to think about the future, and to be serious and responsible, but among these responsibilities, there is no time left for fantasy.
All the most important discoveries began with a dream and were accompanied by the words of outsiders: «What nonsense!», «It’s from ignorance!», «You can’t do it!», «Get busy!», «Amateurs!». Fantasy gave us hydroponics, spacesuits and spaceships, TV, snowboards, and many other things. We live in a world that was invented by brave people and embodied by those who believe in miracles.
What does it mean to dream?
The word «dreamer» has a slightly negative and disdainful connotation: a person is engaged in nonsense instead of doing something useful. That’s most often said about children. Even adults who can dream get offended and locked in themselves, and children even stop fantasizing at all or get disappointed in the world. Both parents and teachers scold children for nothing: «Don’t get lost in daydreams!», «Fantasize somewhere else». And that’s it. We get a society of evil skeptics who have absolutely no dreams and can’t go beyond the usual.
Dreamers are treated with increasing contempt – as people who do not see and do not perceive the real world. In fact, a dreamer – especially a child – relies on his or her real experiences. But if a person always hears «You can’t do it», he will believe it sooner or later.
Surely you’ve seen overprotective and extremely rational mothers who always require you to stop to say nonsense and not to disgrace them. That’s the one. «Stay down», «don’t make it up», – that’s the same category.
It’s not about making children dream, they can do it by themselves, just stay out of their way. Please try to restore your child’s ability to dream and to share your dreams – there is no shame in it. Take the risk of fantasizing. Dreams should be shared – bravely, but thoughtfully. Dream, think how it will be realized and when – describe it, do not hesitate. And finally: try to realize it. Dream and fantasize, then your children will look at you and will learn to think freely and without unnecessary restrictions.