What Is Controlled Crying? What Do You Need To Know About This Method Before Using?
Many parents, after the first sleepless months, wonder how long this can still go on. Fortunately, controlled crying sleep training has been invented that would train your child to sleep soundly, thereby giving you time to sleep and gain strength before new active days. Today we will tell you all the details of the technique that you should definitely know as early as possible.
What Is Controlled Crying?
Controlled crying technique is based on behavioral psychology and consists in the fact that the parents put the baby in the crib and let him cry and calm down at regular intervals. Parents approach the baby at a certain interval of time, stay next to the baby’s crib for no more than 1-2 minutes and leave again. With each night, the intervals at which the parents visit the baby increase ー this is how the child learns self-complacency.
When Is the Best Time To Do Controlled Crying?
According to the recommendations of pediatricians, the controlled crying method should be used no earlier than 4 months from the date of birth of the baby. Before that, also look at other factors for which you shouldn’t use the technique yet. If the child has increased excitability and/or is experiencing a growth spurt, the use of the method should be postponed.
How Does Controlled Crying Work?
First, let’s look at how long controlled crying takes to work, so that you understand how long it would take for implementation. The main actions can last about a week, but in some cases it can be delayed (especially if the mother breaks the new regime). Now consider step-by-step controlled crying. Be sure to memorize these procedures in accordance with the night number:
The time for laying down for a night’s sleep increases by half an hour or an hour, while the time for the subsequent morning awakening remains the same. After the ritual, you need to put the child in the crib and leave the room for 3 minutes, regardless of whether he is crying or not.
If after this time he is still crying, you need to come up, but don’t take the baby out of the crib in your arms. After that, you need to go out and stay outside the room for 5 minutes. Then log in and out again. The next time, the interval would increase to 10 minutes, regardless of whether the baby is crying in the crib or not.
You need to continue teaching your baby to sleep in the same way, at 10 minute intervals, until he falls asleep. When a child wakes up at night, you need not help him calm down immediately, but wait 5-10 minutes.
The scheme is repeated, but the time intervals through which parents come to the baby increase according to the scheme:
- 5 minutes for the first check;
- 10 minutes for a second check;
- 12 minutes ー for all subsequent visits before falling asleep.
Third and Subsequent Nights
Scheme: 10 minutes ー for the first check, 15 minutes ー for the second, 20 minutes ー for the next, even if the child doesn’t sleep all this time.
Pros and Cons of Controlled Crying Method
If you’ve read or heard from others about the method before, you may have heard some negative feedback about its use. Let’s take a look at why controlled crying is bad:
- The child cries a lot and can build up fatigue due to prolonged bedding.
- The technique is categorically not suitable for easily excitable children.
- To consistently apply the technique to parents and teach a child to sleep, you need a lot of patience, which is difficult in conditions of general overwork.
- The technique in relation to attachment and its violation raises many questions.
Yes, the points really don’t inspire confidence, but still it is worthwhile to understand that most of them arise during the incorrect use of the technique.
Despite the fact that there are enough opponents against the method, it has an objective plus: this approach demonstrates speed and high efficiency ー on 2-5 days, you can already notice a pronounced effect, the child falls asleep faster in his crib.
In some cases, this particular technique can be shown as the most effective way to teach a baby to fall asleep. For example, if the mother doesn’t sleep at all, is on the verge of a nervous breakdown and is even afraid to harm the baby. Or when one of the parents has a negative association with the child falling asleep. Or maybe my mom can’t stand the slow method at all. Provided that all those close to you agree on the use of the technique, you can recommend its use. We’ve shown you in our controlled crying method guide all the basic information every mom needs to know who is concerned about restful sleep for her baby. We recommend that you consult with your pediatrician before using this, so that he can tell you exactly whether the technique can be used for your child. This is especially true for babies who have any health problems. But if you do everything correctly, you can be sure that the technique can help you very quickly.
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