How to Discipline Your Toddler Using Time Outs?
We often hear the phrase “time out” at various sporting events or when your friend once again can’t tell if she loves her young man or not. In the first case, players need timeouts and coaches to solve strategically important moments in the game, to boost the morale of the team, or to take a break. In the second case, lovers (or couples) can sometimes come into a standstill and they have to take a timeout to understand their feelings and in which direction to follow.
There is another situation in life where two sides need to go their separate ways and calm down. It applies to parents and their children. Quite often it happens when the desires and thoughts of parents and children don’t coincide at a certain point. The child shows its discontent, capricious, and refuses to do what it is asked. Toddlers can do it for a variety of reasons, for example, the child is passionate about its favorite game and it doesn’t want to distract from the entertainment.
All parents have different methods and ways to influence their children. Someone swears loudly, shouts, and achieves their goals through moral pressure. Others follow their children which knows how to manipulate people and only some parents manage to resolve the misunderstanding peacefully and come to an agreement.
Perhaps you read this and remember your misunderstandings and realize that all these methods are ineffective and take up a lot of precious time. We like to suggest you try to use timeouts in your verbal brawling.
If you think that timeout is a form of punishment for a child, – don’t worry, it is the most humane way to stop arguing, calm down and think again about your behavior (about you and your child).In short, a timeout is like a second chance and a way to calm down.
There are different ways to make a timeout
- you can put your baby to the corner.
- also, you can ask your child to go to their room and be there some time alone.
- a very original way is to use a prop called the timeout chair.
When your child is silently standing in the corner, looking at one point and waiting for your mercy and finally you let it move as before. This method has not been relevant for a long time, but some families still use it.
Alone in the room
Your child has to go to its room and be isolated for a certain period from the home society. Remove phones, tablets, and other gadgets (any access to social networks) in advance. But you can let it read books, playtoysor draw.
Kids timeout chair
Another original variation is the timeout chair. If your child is scandalous, aggressive and can’t calm down, you can politely offer him to sit on such a chair. The child can play, read, think but it could do all of these sitting only on the timeout chair.
Before your child sets on a chair, psychologists recommend that you count to 3. You may ask why we need to count. In this way, you give the child a chance to think and remind because emotions often prevent them from making the right decisions.
It is important to count in a calm voice and do it slowly. If you can’t use a soothing tone, you may just show the number with your fingers. Usually, when children hear the number 1 they start to show less resistance, and children begin to perform your request before you say “2”. If a child doesn’t calm down on the count of two you say “three” and it means it is time for a time-out chair. According to some parents, the child should sit on the chair for as long as old is it. You can put a timer next to the chair so your kid understands that this time-out will not last forever. The timeout method is not so useful because you cannot always use it in public places. But if you use it effectively at home, you can use a trolley or islets for kids in shopping malls as a time-out chair.
You must understand that you have to use the “timeout” right away because the delayed punishment will not be effective. The best age of the child when you can use timeouts is 3-4 years old. But you can start at 2 years old. Remember that there are no ideal methods of education. If you have a hyperactive child who can’t sit still in one place, you can try to offer him to sit on a chair and calm down.
What affects the efficiency of timeouts?
- When things get out of hand, just start counting, you shouldn’t scare your child by time-out. Threats discredit the method in the child’s eyes.
- As we wrote earlier, count to three should be calm and clear without any extra emotions so the child has no chance to aggravate the dispute.
- There is no point in using timeouts very often. Offer your child to go to his or her room or sit in a chair only when the situation is out of control.
And in conclusion, it is important to tell your child what a “timeout” is and what it means if you start counting to three. So it understands what happens afterward and what the consequences of certain actions will be.