Children’s apathy: what to do if your kid does not want to go to school
A child who has lost interest in everything – studying, reading or even playing – is the nightmare of any parent. There may be any reason for such a behavior but it can be very difficult to know about it. There are the most common causes of childhood apathy.
It’s too much pressure
Many parents believe that a large number of clubs, tutors and other extra classes are a key to a child’s success in the future. However, they forget that a kid is not an adult and he/she often does not even understand why parents force him/her to attend a huge number of additional classes and when he/she can finally play or at least just sleep.
It feels like education is useless
It happens that the endless preparation for exams makes a child stop understanding why he/she goes to school. That is one of the possible reasons why children lose their motivation to study.
Bullying or conflict
According to UNESCO every third schoolchild in the world is bullied at least once a month. The same number of students suffer from beatings. Unfortunately, bullying has always taken place in schools. So perhaps the reason for a child’s apathy is frequent conflicts with classmates or teachers.
Fear of failure
It is necessary to legalize (for yourself also) the right to make a mistake to eliminate the fear of error. Consider mistakes as a useful experience that gives you the opportunity to learn something new and to move forward. Allow yourself to discuss your mistakes at home.
Motivating phrases that can help your child
- Tell your child honestly that you were afraid of exams, parent meetings, and bad grades too. That way, he/she will know that you understand him/her and will perceive you as a friend.
- Share your emotions and show that you are nervous because of important things too. That way the kid will know he/she is okay and it is normal to be afraid of checks.
- Tell him/her something funny about your school days. Laughter relieves tension.
- Suggest to his/her face fears. When you know what to expect in case of something, it is always easier if you know what you can expect. Try to come up with a plan B.
- «Anyway we love you» should become the catchphrase. A child is afraid of parental disapproval more than anything else in the world (no matter what he/she says) or, worse, that they will stop loving him or her.