An aggressive kid: 5 main causes of a child’s aggression
Nothing in this world happens for no reason. We cry, laugh, or are sad – that depends on the emotions we are experiencing at the moment. People are divided into emotions or other behavioral reactions into bad and good. Today we will discuss the negative emotions of children in more detail, namely anger and aggression.
In other words, anger or aggression are a person’s internal protest. Everyone is familiar with the situation when a child is angry and cursing when parents don’t allow it to do something that brings pleasure for him/her. Or maybe you’ve seen two children fighting with each other for a toy, or they argue who is the first to swing on a seesaw.
Childhood aggression is divided into two types
It lies in the words in which a person wants to harm another human: insults, expressions of negative emotions, criticism, remarks.
The main reason for verbal aggression is the desire to subordinate another person and manipulate them.
It (children at an early age are more prone to it than others) is when a child tries to prove something or get the desired object with the help of physical force.
We, adults, need to understand that it is normal to show aggression in the first stages. It is much more important to understand the reasons for its occurrence and know how to act in such cases. The most important reason for child aggression is confusion. The child doesn’t understand how it can cope with his or her emotions and the outburst of anger. And as a result, it uses the simplest and most natural method of behavior, which is copied from parents or other adults. But there are also special reasons for child aggression. They may be related to biological factors such as heredity, biochemical reactions, and features of the nervous system. Such anger issues should be identified and prevented on time.
The causes of a child’s aggression
Parental overprotective or insufficient attention
In the first case excessive parental control may generate an internal protest of the child, it can generate a child’s fear and hostility. In the other case, the child wants to attract the parents’ attention by aggression.
Disrespect for the child’s personality
It happens when parents don’t have emotional contact with their children and they allow themselves verbal abuse of their child.
A child who is unconfident is а hostile to everyone. Children choose aggression as a way to protect themselves.
The child’s desire to be the best
Children watch movies (especially fighters or thrillers) with parents where the main characters fight against evil by using physical force. The adults can distinguish fiction from reality but children can get willing to gain prestige among peers in this way. Children don’t understand that leadership can be earned with help of their personal positive qualities and hobbies.
The “herd instinct”
If your child is studying in the class with an aggressive method of communication, it will be perceived as the norm by children. The child doesn’t want to stand out in the crowd and be an object for ridicule and mockery by classmates. It understands that it is easier than going against the system.
Also, you need to know that the cause of the aggressive behavior of the child may be fatigue, overload, excess caffeine in nutrition, and even room temperature.
But aggression also has a positive effect. It develops necessary qualities such as persistence, straightforwardness, purposefulness, the ability to defend the opinion. You can bring up and develop these qualities through various techniques and activities.